On May 28, 2015

Young at heart

By Dom Cioffi

For as far back as I can remember, I have had a persistent need to win. It didn’t matter if it was baseball, darts or a game of Go Fish, my mindset has always been focused on the top of the podium.

And this competitiveness didn’t stop with sports. I had to have a better driver’s license test score than my friends, I had to find more Easter eggs than my brothers, and I had to finger paint better than my classmates.

Not surprisingly, this need to succeed resulted in many bouts of disappointment and heartache if things didn’t go my way. But the years have softened this reaction, so while I still approach every activity with the intent to succeed, I’m now completely fine if things don’t work out exactly as I hoped.

My wife was equally competitive as a youngster and still harbors the same desire to win, but she too has softened with age.

For years we have had to experience our competitive outlets through our child and his sporting events, but that changed after a brief conversation with our neighbors recently.

About three weeks ago, friends in our neighborhood asked us if we wanted to play doubles at their tennis club. The offer caught us off guard, but it sounded like fun so we set up a time to play on the following weekend.

Both my wife and I like the idea of being physically active, but neither one of us was feeling very confident about our tennis game. I’ve been an athlete my whole life, but tennis was never something I focused on. Basically, I’m coordinated enough to get the ball over the net, but I’m far from skilled in the nuances of the game.

Likewise, my wife played in a few women’s leagues over the years but hasn’t picked up her racquet in over a decade.

When the day of our match arrived we rummaged through the garage to locate her old tennis racquets. We also dug through the closet looking for something that could pass for a tennis outfit. Eventually we managed to cobble together enough gear to look somewhat respectable (albeit a bit dated).

Needless to say, our friends beat us quite handily. It wasn’t embarrassing, but we didn’t come close to being as competitive as we hoped.

That night my wife and I spent quite a bit of time analyzing our performance and decided that if we were to accept a rematch, we would have to practice ahead of time. So the following week we headed out to the local playground courts to hit balls.

We were about half an hour into our practice session when a kindly gentleman approached my wife at her end of the court and offered her the use of his racquet, which he claimed was much better suited to her swing. Within minutes she was hitting the ball remarkably better.

A few minutes later he walked up to me and after a two-minute conversation convinced me to try one of his other racquets. And like my wife, the difference in my ball striking improved dramatically.

As it turned out, this gentleman was an ex-tennis pro who was at the courts to give a private lesson. Unfortunately for him (but fortunately for us) his lesson cancelled so he was left with time to kill.

He then proceeded to give us a free hour and a half lesson filled with several tips and a brief overview of some of the more important fundamental aspects of the tennis swing.

By the end, both my wife and I were not only far better tennis players, but also anxious to have our rematch with our neighbors.

In the ensuing two weeks before our rematch, my wife and I had two more lessons. We also found time to buy two new racquets and more appropriate tennis attire. To say that we were confident and excited when our rematch was finally scheduled this past weekend would be an understatement.

Unfortunately, after we arrived at the club and warmed up, we promptly lost the first set, which completely upended our aspirations. However, after a quick review of several tips that our coach had given us, we soon regrouped and proceeded to annihilate our neighbors in the final two sets.

Of course, this performance assured us another rematch, since our neighbors seemed confident that they had simply not played up to their ability. However, given the youthful exhilaration that my wife and I both felt (and the fact that we have more lessons scheduled with our new coach), I don’t think there’s any chance we’re losing again.

This week’s feature, “While We’re Young,” starring Ben Stiller and Naomi Watts, is about a middle-aged couple who also get a renewed taste for youth. However, in their case it’s because of a different set of activities.

This film has a limited audience given that the themes revolve around middle-aged couples. And while there is plenty of comedy to chew on, it does not contain the typical comedic flare we’ve come to expect from a Stiller outing.

Check this one out if you enjoy well written, character-driven films that work toward a poignant conclusion, just don’t expect to be bowled over with laughs in the process.

A backhanded “B-” for “While We’re Young.”

Got a question or comment for Dom? You can email him at moviediary@att.net.

Do you want to submit feedback to the editor?

Send Us An Email!

Related Posts

‘The Apprentice’ is a half-brilliant take on DJT, the early years 

November 6, 2024
There is a moment that comes in the second half of Iranian film director Ali Abbasi’s film, “The Apprentice,” or as I call it, “Trump: The Prequel,” where Donald Trump, played by actor Sebastian Stan, has his manhood called into question by his wife Ivana, played by Maria Bakalova. The Don, hopped up on too…

Preparing for winter

November 6, 2024
One slide of the big yellow shovel at a time. The metal-tipped edge slides smoothly across the artificial wood.  Slowly, deliberately, I work my way across the deck. It’s a deck that has hosted some pretty awesome musicians, but all I need for now is for it not to host this heavy snow. One shovelful at a time,…

Stick around and grow

November 6, 2024
This is the time of year when nature shows us how to let go When all of the leaves have fallen The trees stand proud and bare They slowly release what does not serve them What they leave behind in the soil helps fuel their future growth. When the cold crashes in hard, the naked…

Over the hills and far away

November 6, 2024
Several months ago, I wrote about my son’s high school graduation and how shocked my wife and I were when we learned that he had told the entire graduating class that he was headed for Japan once his senior year ended. We discovered his intentions after the valedictorian mentioned it during his speech. “I even…