Mother's celestial inspirations

Soulmates aren’t what we think

This week’s horoscopes are coming out under the light of a Leo Moon. Undoubtedly there’s a lot going on right now. The way things look, Lucifer and the Archangel Michael are arm wrestling over humanity’s fate and no one knows how it will all pan out. I wouldn’t touch the astrological end of things with a 10 foot pole – so instead of getting in over my head, let me talk about relationship charts, comparison charts, and the business of doing charts for new born babies.

All of us are fools for love. We are born and bred to be that way. Everyone is hung up on the idea that there is one true love and that finding the perfect person is the answer to everything. Because of this, I get approached all the time by happy couples, young and old, who want to find out if the stars confirm the idea that they are made for each other.

Back in the old days, when I was first starting out and didn’t know any better, I would actually sit down and do whatever it took to answer that question. Nowadays, whenever I get that kind of request I just say no. Why? There are a million reasons why.

First of all, you can take the birth charts of two people, compare their natal planets and see all kinds of connections that indicate that they are perfectly suited to each other – or not. As a novice astrologer, this comparison process is what I used to go by, and it is what most astrologers who do this type of work go by.

If you go deeper into the subject you soon realize that any horoscope you look at is not a static entity. The birth horoscope is a freeze-frame of a moment in time. It is full of moving parts that from Day 1, are all progressing and changing at different rates of motion. The levels of compatibility that exist between two birth charts at the outset do not hold steady forever. Over time the original angles form different configurations. To complicate things, transits to both the natal and progressed charts trigger a multitude of situations that challenge or support the concept of compatibility.

What in the beginning appears to be a match made in Heaven often evolves into something else altogether. All relationships go through this. The only thing that keeps two people together is the depth of the love that they share – and there is no way to measure that piece, astrologically. At the end of the day it comes down to the fact that people change, and whether or not each individual is evolved enough to love their partner through their changes.

It also depends on what each individual’s karma is, in the relationship arena. The commonly held assumption is that all of us incarnated on this planet to experience love, in a relationship with another person. This belief is ironclad. We don’t even question it. The truth is, for many different reasons, falling in love and living together forever with a soulmate is not on the menu for everyone.

The reason I refrain from doing relationship and comparison charts is because the people who request this type of work have a hard time hearing the truth. The expectation is always that I will tell them exactly what they want to hear. A lot of astrologers are willing to do this, but not me. And since people have such high hopes when they ask for this particular service, it is easier for me to just say no than it is to have to be the one to tell them that their fairytale will last about as long as an ice cube in Hell. Let me qualify this by saying that once in a blue moon I come across a relationship that looks exactly the way it is supposed to. In 50 years, only three or four examples of this have come to my attention.

When it comes to doing charts for babies and young children, I make it a policy to avoid that type of work as well. Why? When a child comes into this world their karma is completely intertwined with their parents karma until they are about 14 years old. Everything that happens to them, along with their ideas, their beliefs, their material situation, and their interests are determined by what’s going on with mommy and daddy.

It is always mommy and daddy or some well-meaning friend or relative who asks to have the child’s chart drawn up. The reason I say no to these requests is because you can see too much about the parents’ relationship when you do the child’s chart. When what shows up is that mom and dad will split up before the baby turns 2, that becomes a problem; believe me when I tell you – nobody wants to hear it. It is also always more than clear that the incoming soul will have intense mother or father issues and it’s no fun to be the bearer of bad tidings, who is put in the position of being the one to tell either parent that they will wind up being the source of all the kid’s problems. People have a tendency to want to kill the messenger who delivers this type of news. This is why I pass the newborn baby work on to others – because some astrologers are better at putting a happy face on things than I am.

Love is not what we think it is, and neither is life. The things that bring us to this planet are complex, varied, and related to the karma that each of us has accumulated over many, many lifetimes. The idea that there is a one-size-fits-all fairytale that gets doled out to everyone just because they happened to wind up here is a total misconception. Each one of us has our own set of conditions, our own lessons, and our own way of living and being in this world. Why we get conditioned to believe that it is only one way is a total mystery to me. Let me leave you with that, remind you to refrain from ever asking me to do charts for your relationships, your babies, or your grandchildren, and invite you to take what you can from this week’s ‘scopes.

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